Heather started dating a guy named Greg, who she didn't know was dating 2 other women besides her. One day, Greg told her up front about the other women -- and Heather was shocked and dismayed because she had been dating him exclusively and had thought the exclusivity was mutual.
Not knowing what else to do, she gave him an ultimatum, "You have to choose -- it's either them or me" -- to which he replied that he wasn't ready to date her exclusively. He then stopped seeing her altogether. This is an example of not knowing how or when to give an ultimatum -- that's why it backfired on her.
I showed Heather my proven plan and she immediately set it in motion. For 4 weeks, nothing happened. Greg didn't even call her -- and that made her think he probably just wanted to play the field, and didn't want to be tied down to one woman.
On the 5th week, he called and said, "I've been thinking about you." He said he wanted to know how she was doing, and just wanted to talk -- without particularly wanting to get back with her. Little did Greg know that the game plan had prepared Heather for this very call -- she knew EXACTLY what to say to Greg and how to say it. Within a month of working the magic of "the plan," they went on a date. Soon thereafter, Greg stopped seeing the other 2 women -- and decided to have a relationship with Heather exclusively. Heather had captured his heart -- and he didn't know what hit him!
Another client (whom I will call Charlene to protect her privacy) came to consult with me last year. She had been dating a man named Martin for 6 months. Charlene was 43 and had 4 children. The relationship was going beautifully for a few months when, out of the blue, Martin told her that he wasn't ready to get married -- so he stopped seeing her.
She felt devastated, and when she came to my office for counseling, she broke into tears often as she told me her story. I showed her my proven plan for getting Martin back -- and she began to implement it. At first, nothing happened and she thought the plan wasn't working -- but she stuck to the plan anyway. Seven months later, Martin proposed to her -- and 3 months thereafter, they were married.
If you were to ask Martin what caused his change of heart, he would never be able to tell. But Charlene and I know that "the plan" had everything to do with it!
