Don't Send Your Ex That Email!
If you’ve broken up with your significant other, the worst thing you can do is to send a nasty email in the heat of the moment. Once you send that email into cyberspace, you won’t be able to get it back - unless you have access to your ex’s ISP and know his or her username and password to their email account! And if your ex finds out that you broke into their email account, even if it’s to delete the email you regret sending them, you’ve probably blown any chance you had of getting back together.
If you’re so angry with your ex that you feel you need to write them an email giving vent to all your feelings, why not write a letter instead? Get all your feelings out on paper and then when you’re satisfied with what you’ve written - burn it! You may feel a sense of closure when you watch that letter burn. But whatever you do with that letter, make sure you don’t send it to your ex.
Sending nasty or hurtful emails, texts or letters to your ex won’t achieve anything. Sure, it may make you feel a little better because you’ve vented your feelings and given him or her a piece of your mind, but how do you think your ex is going to feel when they receive that letter or email? Do you think it’s going to make them want to get back together with you?
Perhaps it’s important to you that your ex knows how much they hurt you. And if they did, you can certainly tell them so. But telling them in a constructive way how much they hurt you is a lot better than calling them names and being spiteful.
Break-ups can be hard on both parties, but conducting yourself with dignity may make the pain a little easier to bear. And if you harbor any hope of getting back with your ex, you don’t want to destroy your chances by sending him or her an email that shows you as nasty and vindictive.
So don’t send your ex that email. If you need to write down your feelings, then either use a diary or write a letter that you plan to burn as soon as you’ve written down everything that’s bugging you about your ex. That way, you’ve kept your dignity and haven’t intentionally hurt someone who was once close to you.
